Speaking Topics

Marriage

Marriage on Mission

If you are tired of striving for the white-picket fence life complete a house in the suburbs, a spouse, and 2.5 kids, then you won’t want to miss this message. Elizabeth challenges her audience to stop cultivating a “good marriage” that fits neatly into everyone else’s expectations, and start pursuing a marriage on mission . . . living boldly, courageously, and obediently for Christ.

This topic can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or broken into multiple sessions for a weekend retreat.

 

 Running the Marriage Marathon

Elizabeth equips married couples for the long race ahead of them, and encourages them that God has given us all the tools we need to finish the course—it is our job to implement these tools. Among them are:

  • Love
  • Respect
  • Unity
  • Teamwork
  • Submission
  • Clear expectations

This topic can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or broken into multiple sessions for a weekend retreat.

 


Foster Care & Adoption

Fostering Faith

Interested in foster care? Adoption? Fostering-to adopt? Maybe you just want to know how to support foster families in your area. Gather your friends, your community, and your congregation for a personal yet, informative night with Elizabeth as she shares her personal journey as a foster and adoptive mom. Practical information includes:

  • what you need to become a foster parent
  • how to prepare your bio kids for the fostering journey
  • how to get licensed as a foster parent
  • how to prepare yourself emotionally and spiritually for the fostering journey
  • what to expect as a new foster parent
  • how fostering affects bio kids
  • how to respond to people’s reactions about foster care
  • what to do if you and your spouse are not on the same page when it comes to fostering or adoption
  • how to transition from foster care to adoption
  • and much more!!!

This topic can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or broken into multiple sessions for a weekend retreat.

 


Faith

Broken Branches

Based on Elizabeth’s soon-to-be-released book (2017), Mending Broken Branches: When God Helps You Reclaim Your Dysfunctional Family Tree, Elizabeth encourages and equips women so that they can break the cycle of dysfunction in their family of origin and create a healthier, Christ-centered family of their own.

This topic can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or broken into multiple sessions for a weekend retreat.

 

You Are More

If you have ever questioned your worth, value, or place in this world, then this talk—based on Elizabeth’s book, If You Could See as Jesus Seesis the tool you need to squelch your self-doubt and embrace God’s Truth about your identity and self-worth.

The three sessions are all Scripture-based and focus on the following three topics:

  • Identity
  • Rejection
  • Restoration

Any of these three sessions can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or all three can be used together for a weekend retreat.

 

As Jesus Sees

Do you feel ugly, no matter how much your husband or friends tell you that you are pretty? Do you stand in front of a mirror and criticize your hair, your thighs, and (gasp!) your cellulite?

Do you punish yourself by wallowing in shame and regret about that poor choice you made? That relationship severed? That chance you never took? Those words you said that you can never take back?

Do you feel incompetent? Untalented? Ordinary? Does it feel like everyone around you is starting a home-based business or an Etsy shop while you can’t even find time to fold the laundry?

Do you feel lonely? Isolated? Desperately alone amid a sea of friends, family, and acquaintances?

This talk is based on Elizabeth’s newly released book, If You Could See as Jesus Sees, and she tackles the following four topics:

  • Ugliness
  • Shame
  • Incompetence
  • Isolation

By using Scripture, Elizabeth teaches women how to stop seeing themselves through the world’s eyes, through the Enemy’s eyes, and even through their own eyes, and how to start seeing themselves through their Savior’s eyes.

Any one of these four sessions can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or all four can be used together for a weekend retreat.

 

The Forgotten Ones

Do you feel lonely, misunderstood, ignored, or forgotten? Do you long for deep connection and love, only to fall asleep at night with an ache in your soul? If so, you might take comfort in knowing you’re not the only woman to ever feel this way. In this three-part series Elizabeth explores the lives of three women who were overlooked, abandoned, and mistreated:

  • The Bleeding Woman
  • Queen Vashti
  •  Hagar

By realizing God’s role in their lives, we will see the protective, loving part He plays in our own.

Any one of these three sessions can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or all three can be used together for a weekend retreat.

 

The Joy of Pain

In 2 Corinthians Paul talks about the thorn in his flesh. Elizabeth knows this reality all too well as she has dealt with chronic migraines since the age of ten, even to the point of being hospitalized several times in her twenties. Yet, in the midst of her excruciating pain she discovered her pain was a gift, and she gained a deeper walk with her Savior because of it.

In this talk Elizabeth uses Scripture and stories of Jesus’ healing to explore questions such as:

  • Does God see me and what I am going through?
  • Why doesn’t God heal me? (emotional pain, physical pain, or other difficult circumstance)
  • What if God never heals me?
  • What if God answers my prayers?

This topic can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or broken into multiple sessions for a weekend retreat.

 

I (Am Trying to) Surrender All

In this honest, very personal talk Elizabeth shares how, in 2014, God asked her to surrender her job, her comfort, her Type-A tendencies, and her safe, predictable life . . . all to chase his call to write full time and to pursue foster care. If you look at her life today, it appears that God tied up her story with a neat little bow: Elizabeth landed a book deal and she and her husband became foster parents to a precious little girl. However, Elizabeth shares the struggles she endured along the road of surrender, including:

  • dealing with people’s reactions
  • depression
  • marital stress
  • feelings of failure

In the end God taught Elizabeth that surrender is not about resolution, but about our deep dependence on him throughout the process.

This topic can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or broken into multiple sessions for a weekend retreat.

 

Dare to Connect

Elizabeth talks about the importance of finding connection in our lives and creating authentic community through sharing her testimony, her own experience connecting with other women, and then walking the audience through Mark 1. She also covers:

  • Gospel-centered connection
  • how we can find connection within our own spheres of influence
  • how we can maintain connection amid our busy lives
  • how we can pursue authentic connection and avoid surface level relationships
  • and much more!

 This topic can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or broken into multiple sessions for a weekend retreat.

 

The Mentor Match

In 2011 Elizabeth and her husband, Brandon, had served in marriage ministry for many years and started seeing a trend: young married couples were approaching them in droves, and many carried with them years of heavy baggage. Elizabeth and Brandon could not respond to everyone’s needs, nor were they qualified to handle the depth of everyone’s problems, therefore they created a nonprofit called Project Restoration, which has two arms: it provides reduced-rate Christian marriage counseling and also matches marriage mentors with mentees.

In this talk Elizabeth identifies the importance of mentoring, identifies several mentor/mentee relationships in the Bible and the wisdom we can glean from them, and also equips audience members to step out and become a mentor.

This topic can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or broken into multiple sessions for a weekend retreat.


Parenting

 

Raising Gen Z Kids in a Millennial World

Elizabeth shares her own experience of raising five Generation Z kids in today’s technology-focused, fast-paced society. Elizabeth exposes the challenges and blessings our culture brings as we try to parent our children according to our values and beliefs, and she’ll show parents how we can cultivate an environment that encourages our children to invite us into their world.

 This is a standalone talk for a one-time event.

 

Uncensored: What Kids Wish Their Parents Knew About Divorce

Elizabeth understands divorce from a child’s perspective all too well. She watched her mom marry and divorce when she was a small child, in middle school, and again when she was in her twenties. Fortunately, God carried her through these difficult experiences and brought her into closer fellowship with him. It was the second divorce that prompted her to write a Bible study for teens called, Dealing with Divorce: Finding Direction When Your Parents Split Up.

 Although the book is for teens, “Uncensored” is for parents and designed to give them a sneak peek into the mind and heart of their child. In this talk Elizabeth covers topics such as:

  • Kids’ feelings about divorce
  • Affects of divorce on kids (positive and negative)
  • Divorce do’s and don’ts
  • Navigating stepfamilies
  • Moving forward

This topic can be a standalone talk for a one-time event or broken into multiple sessions for a weekend retreat.

 


Writing

Identity and Your Craft

In this talk I explore two areas: First, knowing our identity in Christ and how that contributes to better quality writing. If we don’t adequately know ourselves, how can we minister to our audience and their needs? Often, writers want their own emotional and spiritual needs met through the cathartic writing process, neglecting their audience in the process.

Second, I talk to writers about that importance knowing their audience’s needs. One of my favorite children’s movies is Robots, which tells the story about Rodney Copperbottom, a wanna-be inventor. He looks up to Bigweld whose motto is, “Find a need, fill a need.” I think the same is true for writers. We need to assess our audience, figure out their greatest need, then address that. We can use our personal experiences to add credibility and relate to our audience, but ultimately our writing is a ministry for our people, not a therapy session for ourselves. Sometimes as writers we get it backwards. We see writing as an emotional outlet—which it can be—but we forget to pour into our audience and we try to fulfill our needs first. When we do this, our audience can tell and they stop reading. They want to know, “What’s in it for me?” They don’t want to read all about us; they want to read something that is going to help them, and then relate to us along the way.

This topic is a standalone talk for a one-time event and is suitable for college or adults.

 

No Hunting and Pecking Allowed

Have you ever watching someone who was passionate about their writing? They sat at their desk, hunched over, typing fast and furiously. They didn’t stop to correct mistakes. They didn’t read back what they just wrote. They thought and typed and thought and typed before their thoughts escaped them. There was no hunting and pecking allowed! it would have been an insult to their craft. Not to mention given them an even greater crick in their neck.

God has taught Elizabeth many lessons during her years of writing, including:

  • Write what you know.
  • If you don’t feel a twinge of nausea while writing, then you’re probably not being vulnerable enough with your audience.
  • Write a story worth reading; write a story worth living.
  • Leave the readers better than when they came to you.
  • Give a small piece of yourself away every time you write.

In this talk Elizabeth shares these lessons and many more with her audience to encourage and instruct them in how to hone their craft of writing.

 This topic is a standalone talk for a one-time event and is suitable for children, teens, college, or adults.

 


 If you are interested in asking Elizabeth to speak on a different topic that fits a particular theme for your event, please feel free to contact her at info@elizabethoates.com. She would love to discuss it with you.